Enzo Cucchi , 1980, A mano a mano A volte capita che di fronte ad un problema reagiamo con una preoccupazione tale che ogni altro pleasant aspect of our lives is obscured, diminished, forgotten.
(...) Any positive event, it is immediately removed from the concern joy and happiness are constantly delayed the moment when the issue is resolved. This type of attitude can be quite annoying because is difficult to be totally free from worries and this will put your personal happiness in grave danger.
I noticed that very often people who exhibit this attitude to address the concerns are the same that have powerful feelings of guilt for a number of things, it seems that car punish, not allowing them to be happy;
(...) the cause of everything is usually due to childhood, when the victim of this attitude was constantly discouraged, perhaps unconsciously by anxious adults.
(...) Another source of guilt may be, within the family of origin, an attitude that you consider "evil" the joy and fun: a behavior is serious and austere 'single acceptable in this vale of tears that is our life. Happiness is something so frivolous, something that should feel guilty and therefore should be suppressed respectfully
(...) Whatever the reason why a particular problem there storm , always remember that the events occur even in difficult times beautiful ; being taken by our concerns but we do not notice them. E 'therefore important to keep in mind the following points:
- The situation ends all positive. (For one reason or another have a value of growth and experience)
- Concentrate your attention on something pleasant, even small. The more time you can commit to a problem, the greater the size of that purchase in your mind.
- Without attention to the way you talk : avoid exaggerations.
I deal with problems only when they arise and always calm. The problems are not monsters and I believe they can be solved with ease and skill. Life becomes every day more enjoyable because my ability to deal with things is increasing day by day.
Vera Peiffer ( psychoanalyst and hypnotherapy of German origin living and working in London), 1989, The power of positive thinking , Armenia Publishing Group, Milan
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