Famous Graves In Rome

Knowing how do not listen to the Wailing Wall is to become a mental

Mimmo Paladino , 1986, round Earth African



(...) E 'may be part of that category of people who, while enjoying great popularity in spite of numerous friends, feel they are not able to find a partner . All come to you with their problems for advice, help or encouragement, at all hours of phone calls you receive will inform you of developments in their disastrous relationship, keeping the phone for hours.
Your problems will seem insignificant in comparison to those of others.

(...) Please realize that you are not confessors, on which anyone can pour out their emotional outbursts .

(...) E ' important, of course, you're on the side of his friends when they go through difficult times, but be very careful, because there are people where not all interested in solving their problems rather than complain. Listening to these people for too long, you too fall into a depressive state: if you allow other people's problems v'inghiottano, you will be easily infected by them from their anguish and despair. You have a duty to protect yourself, then try to distinguish between true friends, who have a large really need your help, from those who will use it as a shoulder to cry on.

Start by devoting your time to other people, talk to them, they suggested new ways of tackling problems and if then you see that these do nothing to change, will mean that you can not help in any way .
If you find that someone uses for their own purposes (perhaps unintentionally), tell him that from now on will be available to listen to him only when he has something positive to tell you (who knows if it will still have something to tell you).

In most cases you will make a great favor to the other holding back their complaints, if he realize that you are no longer available as the Wailing Wall, it may be that they are forced to take some initiative to give a solution to the problem!

not merely voice only: make sure anche di ricevere. Se vi preoccupate soltanto dei problemi degli altri e trascurate le vostre esigenze e i vostri desideri, non vi state occupando di voi nel modo migliore.



Vera Peiffer (psicanalista e ipnositerapista), 1989, Il potere del pensiero positivo , Gruppo Editoriale Armenia, Milano